How to deal with a child's difficult behavior?

How to deal with your child's difficult behavior in four steps ? Everything you need to know

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We often wonder if children do it consciously?

It probably depends on the child's intentions, awareness of their behavior and emotional competence.

We should remember that the action plan is one of the most important elements of working on inappropriate behavior! 

It is important that the child knows what to expect when he or she behaves inappropriately, is prepared for a conversation and, above all, can draw their own conclusions and be aware of the consequences.

It's not about punishments and rewards! It's about talking and developing the ability to deal with emotions in an acceptable way.

How to deal with difficult child behavior in four steps?

Step 1. The most important thing is for the child to be calm when you start talking about their inappropriate behavior. Only start when you know that the child will be able to concentrate on talking to you, without crying, screaming, or complaining.

Step 2. Ask your child – “What did you think was inappropriate about your behavior?”

Important! When talking to younger children, it is worth first saying what you thought was inappropriate, then ask the child to say in their own words what they should not do because it could hurt others.

Step 3. Continue and ask the question, “How should you behave in this situation?”

Visualizing good behavior is a fundamental factor in helping a child modify their behavior, increasing the likelihood that it will not repeat itself in the future or will repeat itself with less intensity, and the child will be able to react in real time!

Step 4. Ask your child to tell you how he or she could fix this situation.

First of all, it is important that the child repairs the damage they have caused through their behavior, and at the same time has a chance to forgive themselves. Then they should apologize to people who may have felt wronged. Studies show that children who apologize are more likely to reflect on their behavior!

Remember that the method described is a proposed action that can be modified to suit the child’s personality, age and current needs.